Series: Love Is ...
August 02, 2020 | Nick Agazarian
Love is patient.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
Loving the way that Paul calls us to love in this passage saves our relationships and it creates unity instead of division.
1 Corinthians 13:4a: Love is patient…
– to be patient
Present and active: love is continuously patient…
1. To remain tranquil while waiting
2. To bear up under provocation without complaint
3. To be forbearing
4. To be long suffering – KJV: Love suffereth long
"Being patient every day is a battle for our heart." - Tim Keller
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.
Four ways to walk in patience:
Trust in the Lord
Delight in the Lord
Commit your way to the Lord
Hope in the Lord
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you.
Patience, small amounts of it, every day, allows us to walk continuously in love, and it grounds all of our friendships and our relationships in the most excellent way, the way of love.
Questions for Reflection:
In the middle of conflict, what is your natural response? Respond quickly? Ignore a persons' claims? Ask clarifying questions? How do you think your natural response helps or hurts your relationships?
Some reasons that we struggle with patience are that our expectations are unmet, our goals have been blocked, and/or our rights have been violated. How do you see these factors at play when you lose patience?
Read James 1:19 - 21. Imagine you were summarizing these verses for a friend. What would you say in one or two sentences in your own words to explain what James was communicating?
Think about a relationship that you are struggling in right now. Ask God to fill you with wisdom on what patience in that relationship looks like for you.
Psalm 37 calls us to Trust, Delight, Commit and Hope in the Lord. How would doing these actions on a daily basis change your mindset when it comes to patience? How would walking these actions out change your relationships and the way you respond to others?